It dawned upon me that I have known most of my friends for at least 12yrs and e most can go up to...15yrs? My god... It seems like yesterday when I first reported to JPS then going to NHSS on the first day with my dad, followed by to SAJC and finally graduating from SIM.. So many years had passed since then. kinda scary isnt it?
We have been learning alot of things since the day we were borned. New things to be learnt at different stages of life. However, I believe some of the stuffs will be lifelong learning. An example wld be interpersonal relationships...
All of us will meet different ppl in our lives..there will be tough choices to make and tedious efforts to be put in. Ppl always say..it is hard for 2 persons to meet on Earth amidst e billions of ppl. However, I tink maintaining e relationship is harder than letting 2 persons meet.
& I am referring to all kinds of relationships and not just love.
Throughout the r/s, I believe there will be a lot of misunderstandings and clashes due to both internal and external reasons. What most impt is to be able to know the root of the problem, resolve and walk out of it. I guess this is sth that a lot of us may experience difficulties.
At times, things are just uncontrollable at times, beyond our control. However, it really depends on how much efforts one have put in. Never let your first excuse become the reason of your subsequent excuses. There might be alot of differences between two people and there might not really be a perfect solution to the problem but the main thing is how much efforts you put in to try to resolve the problem. I believe if the other party sees the effort u put in to resolve the differences, he/she will be touched and your excuse will no longer be an excuse but a reason behind your actions.
Of cos, this is not something that one person can achieve. It takes two hands to clap and similarly, it takes two persons to maintain the relationship. How much do you expect one to contribute? What is the threshold for the other party to tolerate? Hmmmm....
Sometimes I really feel tired in maintaining these kinda relationships....how much can i tolerate? How much can I give in? Why am I finding all these excuses for the other party? Nope. Maybe I'm not so thoughtful or good. Perhaps I'm just finding excuses for myself in the excuses for the other party... to avoid the harsh reality? Perhaps. Or maybe I'm just being unreasonable.. Perhaps this would be a better reason ba. Or is this another excuse for myself or the failed relationship? Oh well... I keep telling myself not to be bothered with people who don't care...but I have failed myself...
也许我真的应该狠下心来，什么也不管。当那一天到来时，不要怪我，因为我已经尽力，到了极限了。我不是超人，只是一个普通人，我也会累了。如果你是‘这么’珍惜我们的过去，如果你真的放的下，我也只能放手。毕竟我能做的也只是那么多。
